Dear Slut-Shaming Women,
Please stop telling other women that we are somehow being bamboozled out of diamonds because we have sex, and take the time to let a relationship develop instead of immediately demanding the title of “Girlfriend”.
Some women seem to express a sort of sadness for women who have a more casual approach to dating. They seem to think that we are compromising our grace, or missing out on something. As one woman once put it to me, “Get a gift once in a while”.
I think that is total bullshit. We earned the right to have casual, no-strings-attached sex, goddamnit! We are trying to get rid of the perception that women use their sexuality as a tool to make men do what we want.
You want equal pay for equal work? That means giving up some special treatment. And giving up special treatment means I should pick up the check sometimes.
Special treatment of women comes from the idea that women are the fairer sex, and need to be pampered due to their delicate nature. You want to stop being called “the fairer sex”? Then you need to stop acting like the fairer sex. If you don’t care, then Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.
Now I’m not saying men shouldn’t do nice things for women. I’m just saying that men and women in relationships should be doing an equal amount of nice things for each other, based on the type of relationship they have, and if they are the type of people interested in romantic gestures at all.
If I’m in a relationship, I shouldn’t be getting diamond stud earrings in exchange for “cooking dinner naked” on our anniversary. That’s all I’m saying. If I think you should buy me diamond earrings, then I’m buying you an heirloom pocket watch. If I don’t think I should have to do that for you, then you shouldn’t have to do anything for me either.
Excellent case in point - Valentine’s Day. How much of Valentine’s Day shit to you see thats meant to be bought for men?
You can’t demand that a guy respect you, and then also demand that you’re so special that you deserve money spent on you because you’re so fabulous, and give nothing in return. That, Women’s Studies majors, is called putting the pussy on a pedestal. And that creates an inequality between the sexes.
There is no right way to do it, to each his/her own. If you want to be treated like a princess, then you have to understand that you’re giving up some other things that you might not have thought were necessarily directly connected. If you’re ok with that, go right on ahead. Women do it all the time.
Equalism is about choice. You have the choice to be Courtney Stodden, and you have the choice to not be. As long as you understand the consequences of your choice, then do it. Do it full force.
But if you don’t understand it, don’t give me any shit about it.
